A Note on Relationships

Usually I use this blog to bitch and moan about things that annoy me but due to recent activity, I think I need to make a note on relationships.

The biggest myth in relationships is "its not you its me." If you are planning on leaving someone, you use this line to make the person your leaving feel better when in fact, you are leaving them for something they did. You may say that you changed but the reason you changed is because of something the person you are leaving did. Thus, "its not you its me" is always bullshit.

When you leave someone because something they have been doing has been bothering you but you never tell them, it is beyond unfair to not give them a change to fix it. And when you do give them a chance to fix it, its not fair if you don't try as well. That just makes you an ass and a dick. You can't expect the person you are leaving to know magically what is wrong. And then you can't say "I'll give you a chance" and then ignore the trying.

Also, leaving someone you've been with for three years because of one bad week that lead you to look for someone else to show you caring, is total bullshit. It makes you a terrible person. You can't believe that you don't want to be someone after one bad week. And this bad week is just because the person you are leaving was stressed due to other things going on in their life. Yes, they didn't mention why they were stressed but I'm pretty sure that when you've been with someone for three years you can pretty much guess.

Everything can't change in 5 days.

~I put my faith in you, so much faith, and you just threw it away